Thursday, November 19, 2009

Freshman vs. Junior high school love?

so i'm a freshman in high school, i'm 14. this guy from a different school, just 15 mins away from mine, has been rumored to like me. he's a junior and 16 years old. we met at a superbowl party a couple of weeks ago, exchanged numbers, sns, myspace urls, and facebooks and have talked about at the least 5 times already. so since everyone's into the sentimental feeling of valentine's, yesterday, he called me and told me that he liked me [forreal] but wasn't ready to ask me out yet, since as he put it, "i'm really concerned about my APs right now and college stuff, and ill do some other stuff when the time is right."





basically, he meant he was afraid of commitment, or he's just self-centered.





what do you percieve this as? my friend says that "it takes a real man to do that."





Help, :\

Freshman vs. Junior high school love?
No, it doesn't mean that he's not committed or self-centered. He just doesn't have time for a relationship right now, which is okay. Trust me, I've been in his situation before, and it's tough!





Just wait until summertime, if he likes you, then he won't mind waiting till summer. :)





I don't think he's too old.





He just doesn't want to take the chance of spending less time with homework to be with a girlfriend. That could mess up his whole career. He's being smart.
Reply:if he feels its too early, then either wait for him or just move on
Reply:Hm, I do not think he is too old for you. And you won't really know if he is self-centered or afraid of commitment until you get to know him. Give him a shot but don't be too clingy. Be flirtatious! Talking to someone new can be so exciting, but don't be too bummed if it doesn't work out the way you planned.





Hope I helped :)
Reply:If you're looking to just hook up with somebody, go for it...but you're right, it IS too early to start a relationship.





And also, he's not self-centered, he's being very smart and putting his studies before you
Reply:I don't think that you are to young for him at all. My best friend is 14 and dating a 18 year old. But he is really religous and listens to a lot of Christain music. So is the type that wants to wait to do it when he gets married. But if the boy that you like is one of those that want to do it than maybe you should go for someone your own age. Sorry to tell you that. I mean your not to young for a relationship but you know for sex than maybe you should wait. Hope that my advice helped you out! Good Luck!!!





-Courtney-
Reply:He's not too old for you at all. He's too old to call a girl up to tell her he likes her, but isn't ready to ask her out yet. He should've just kept it to himself if nothing is going to happen.
Reply:First, he is not too old but you both are still too young. Let's take it slow be friend first and see what happen. He likes you and therefore he said so. Trust his words and wait.


Hope you have a happy day.
Reply:Nah, if you trust him, then the age difference shouldn't matter. He just probably is really shy, and since Valentines is the most romantic holiday (duh) he chose to break the ice then. It just means that he wanted to tell - he just wasn't ready for the real deal. ;)
Reply:You are 14? He is 16? Seriously, you just kids. I don't want to sound bogus or anything, but what he did shows how mature he is. It shows that he has priorities. If there is love between the two of you, you will wait for him and vise versa. You are too young to think about relationships.





Your barely in high school, and then afterwards, maybe college is on the way. First you have to focus on what you'll do for the rest of your life in terms of a career, and then you will be able to focus on love. Trust me, i like this girl and we have decided to postpone dating and all the other stuff until we are mature enough to stand on our own feet, without the help of anybody.
Reply:Uhh... i think he's playing hard to get. If i were you, i'd say yeah... me too.. i gotta worry about my honor classes or something like that. 14 yr old and 16yr old aren't that bad. Just know what you are getting yourself into and don't get ahead of yourself. Oh yeah, and don't think this is IT, this is the guy i'm going to marry.
Reply:What he meant was; he likes you, but doesn't have the time for a girlfriend right now.





To be so serious about someone when you're so young can really distract you from everything else in your life, and it also distracts you from getting experience and getting to know other people. It's OK if you two date one day soon...just try not to get so serious.
Reply:i dont think hes too old for u my boyfriend is 3 years older them me but just wait till its time
Reply:I think your age shouldt start dating cause all you do is break up after 2 weeks. Start dating in college where you know the full meaning of I love you is
Reply:He's not too early but it is probably too early. you should just go out on dates to get to know each other. and he probably really does have to focus on school. that's actually a good things.


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