Relationship problems!I'm so confused...is it just me or its over?I try to talk and understand him im lost

I have been in a relationship for 3 years and its petty things that drive me crazy...when me and my boyfriend goes places he acts different in public like watches other girls and lie if I tell him about it, if he's goes to work at 12in the evening he doesnt call me until he gets of at 10pm and he doesnt see why Im mad he always makes up excuses even though he takes a break at work, we both have facebooks accounts and he never put his relationship status on there when I ask him about it he talks about facebook doesnt matter to him but he have time to answer all the other questions on there it seems like he is leaving his options open even though he says hes not...although I see that these things are petty it leaves me wondering is he with me just for the time being or is this not worth it..he says he love me but Im confused...

Relationship problems!I'm so confused...is it just me or its over?I try to talk and understand him im lost
From what you say, he sounds like a commitment-phobe to me. He suffers from the "grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" mentality. His friends may tease him about having sex with 'only one woman' for the rest of his life. This idea scares some men and some women both. You are not feeling secure and he isn't helping. You deserve more respect as a person. You deserve to be treated well. If he is not willing to state his relationship status on his facebook page, I would pay attention to that. I would ask him if I should be concerned about that. I would ask him how he would feel if you did not acknowledge your relationship to anyone, if you put yourself out there as single. The response you get will give you a lot of food for thought. Someone who believes you are the one would NOT treat you this way. Take care of your heart only bestow your love on one who is willing to love you back in a way that you understand love to be. I hope you choose to act in your own best interest. If you don't stand up for you, who will? Be of Good Courage...
Reply:you don't sound confused at all. it's clear that it's over. he may love you, but it's not the love you are looking for. why do you allow yourself to be driven crazy by this person? find a gentleman who will treat you like a lady
Reply:First of all ladies-EVERY STRAIGHT MAN IS GOING TO LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN. FACT OF LIFE. Reality sucks-and the reality is if he doesn't broadcast or show public affection-he may be looking other routes. You want honest answers-I give them.
Reply:he has a funny way of showing you how he feels about you, i think he is in control of the relationship and he knows that he can get away with things if he just ignore you. i think that he maybe looking for other optionl.
Reply:Couple of things here:





- You're keeping score way too much, and it's bothering him.


- He doesn't sound like someone who's in love.





Three years is kind of a tipping point for relationships: after three years, couples either break up or get serious. It sounds like he's moved on, even though he says he loves you.





I'd look into some other relationships for yourself and leave him alone for a while. Maybe he'll wake up and get serious, but in the meantime, look for someone who's wholeheartedly into a relationship with you.
Reply:It sounds like your guy is only one foot into this relationship. That is, while he's dating you, he's checking out other girls to see if there is something better out there.





A guy will always check out other girls, but it's when they won't admit it that I always have a problem with it. After all, just because a guy is taken doesn't mean that he doesn't have eyes. One of my friends %26amp; his wife actually make a sport out of it. He'll spot someone cute %26amp; then point her out to his wife, who'll comment on whether she thinks she's cute or not.