Need some advice about a coworker and facebook?

Ok....I really need some opinions on this. First off. I am 25 and in grad school. I work part time as a tutor and recently at a tutoring meeting (one of these things where we all get together and talk about how our sessions are going) I saw one of my coworkers I had never met before and I was extermly attracted to her. I talked to her a bit and she seemed really cool. Anyway after the meeting I couldn't stop thinking about her so...I looked into our old email listserve and found her name and looked her up on facebooks. Ok..so..I find out shes younger than me but has a lot of my interests.The question is..should I add her? I hardly ever see her but have kind of a crush on her. The thing is should I add her or would it look like I am a stalker? I want to ask her out but I never see her and I think facebook could give us something to talk about..so..yeah..what should I do?


Also, if I do add her how do I say I found her? "Oh hey, I looked you up from an email list..." ...weird right?

Need some advice about a coworker and facebook?
The cool thing about facebook, or any computer thing or texting, is that it can be completely unpersonal. Chances are, she won't ask how you found her, but if she does just say you did a facebook search for her name to see if she was on it because you wanted to keep in touch. Or because you thought she was cute and wanted to get to know her better. She probably wouldn't think a thing about it, though.





Good luck.
Reply:Add her and if she asks who you are just say that you work with and you were playing around on facebook one night and thought that was her. I did that to a guy that I liked before.
Reply:I say be brave, find someone who has her number, be a man and call to ask her out. don't do the passive agressive facebook thing, it's never going to lead to anything. It doesn't make you a stalker, it makes you brave.
Reply:Tell her that you met her and thought she was a very nice person. Tell her that you looked her up on facebook because you thought she was such a good person. Its all in honesty and the more honest you can be the better all your relationships will be. You are not a stalker, if you were, you would of did the facebook thing already. Tell her the truth, which may be a bit twisted, but its still the truth and your friendship will grow from the positives. Take care Heather

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