Monday, November 16, 2009

I really need a guy's opinion on this...?

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. We both know that we love eachother and want to spend the rest of our lives together. But, I've found him doing things that he knows I don't like. He talks to this girl that he's known longer than me, they chatted on facebook and everything. I found a message saying that they were going to hang out together. I also found her # in his phone. When I asked my bf about this, he denied both. He deleted her # and said that it was never there, even though I saw it. I told him everything about how I saw the facebook messages, and he finally admitted that he did it and apologized. We both deleted our facebooks. We got over it. 2nd issue, I was on his computer and I saw the websites he went to. He signed up for an account for a sex webcam website. Once again, apologized and forgotten. 3rd thing, he reactivated his facebook, and i found a message to that same girl saying, "i love you" He said he was just kidding...should i be worried?

I really need a guy's opinion on this...?
I am not a guy but I have been in this EXACT same situation...





I was very, very concerned and actually ended up leaving him because of it.





Within a week he knew that what he lost was not worth the things he was doing.





We ended up getting married and couldn't be happier.





If you leave him and he doesn't change then at least you got out before you were married. If you leave him and he does change then you know he is genuine about his feelings for you and was just being stupid for a while
Reply:Yes you should
Reply:Well probably the issue for #1 and #3 is not so much the girl but the fact that he wasn't truthful about it the first time then wasn't truthful the second time either. Then to say you are "just kidding" is sort of a way to sleaze yourself out of a tight situation. I would take those as not very good signs. For #2 if it was a good cam site then its ok.
Reply:after this all thing u should what your boyfriend need he want sex , you want to talk with him about this matter and i think he is not made for u , u are really a good guy and forget him it is only a opinion
Reply:wow what a great guy you have there,where did you find him, he.s honest, open ,always talks, to you about his feelings and he's not in the slightest bit interested in other girls


if I had a partner like yours Id hate god , which I dont, but then again I dont have your wonderfull partner!





wake up girl and smell the roses ,before the manure lorry arrives
Reply:do you seriously have to be the only girl in his life?
Reply:you know I had a similar problem with an ex boyfriend, except that instead of a girl, it was his ex girlfriend .... what I would say is that you should analyze and see if he really does love you -and what he says but mostly how he shows it- (in my case, i was 100% sure my bf loved me, he showed it everyday in a thousand different ways) But the bigger thing, though, is if you will be able to truely forgive him. Because if you can't forgive him, then its guna be real hard (in my case - eventho like i said, any one could tell how much my bf loved me, I was never able to truely forgive him, so at the end, after 1.5 yrs, things just ended because of that) So bottom line is, that if you're sure he loves you and you're sure you can forgive him, then def fight for it and don't let other people get in your way.
Reply:if he is not able to be honnest, you should worry; he maybe won't cheat you but obviously he is hypocritical;


try to have a big talk with him, maybe sexually he needs different stuff but is not able to discuss it with you
Reply:The first one: It's very possible to have a friendly relationship with the opposite gender. Hanging out even. My girlfriend has as many guy friends as girls and I don't have a problem with it.


While it's common to have friends' numbers on the phone, he shouldn't have denied that it was on his phone. That would worry me a bit since he lied to you.





The second: Some guys are just plain guys. Can't blame them too much.





The final: This sounds almost exactly like the phone thing, however taken a step too far. I would be mostly worried about what he said to the girl. Tell him that even though he was kidding, it's stretching things a little bit too far. I know I wouldn't like to see my girlfriend say those three words to someone else other than me. (Unless it's obviously in the playing-around-super-happy-you're my friend Iloveyou way.)





Being worried doesn't do anything though. You should talk to him a little bit more about how you feel about these kinds of actions. Communication is key.
Reply:Yes you should be worried hes oblivously not content with the relationship he is in and is looking for more..
Reply:ofcourse you gotta get worried....I mean you saw him doing this in ur own eyes...he apologized...you simply forgave him...he did it again and again...let me say "he's taking advantage of your merciful heart".
Reply:Women.... ugh.





Fact: Guys like porn.


Fact: Guys can be friends with other girls and not sleep with them.


Fact: You being so jealous might give him a good reason to be unfaithful...
Reply:Bail out!


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